Let's Talk About Sex

Sex is only for one man and one woman who are married to each other. Sex is not for the engaged. It's not for adults. It's not for people "in love". It's not for the "mature". It's not for those who are "ready". It's not for those who are "responsible". It's not for those who are "safe". It's not for those who think it's just casual. It's not for two men, it's not for two women, and it's not for you privately. Sex is exclusive to one man and one woman who are married to each other.

Sex is the most intimate connection which two human beings can experience together. No matter how much you try to convince yourself, it cannot be casual or meaningless. God intended sex to be for a man and a woman who have sacrificed all other relationships and everything else to be completely devoted to each other in marriage; just as Christ sacrificed everything and was completely devoted to us. When you force intimacy through pre-marital sex, whether it be with one or multiple partners, you are trying to take an intimacy that only God can give. Unfortunately, just as we do with everything else, the human race, through our sinful nature, has corrupted sex, and tried to make it something it's not. Sex is not a sales pitch. It's not a punchline. Sex is not the images in your head. It's not the fantasies you play out in your head. It's not the "next step" for you and your boyfriend/girlfriend. It's not the thing that makes you cool with your friends. Sex is the most intimate moment two human beings can experience, and it's intended for a man and a woman completely devoted to each other.

Honestly, pre-marital sex is not the only form of sexual immorality in which we need to flee from (refer to the contest or 1st Corinthians 6:18). Paul, the guy who wrote the majority of the Bible's New Testament, explains that sexual sin is the only sin that affects the body. This is because the God who created us understands how we work emotionally, physically, and psychologically. The emotions, images, and memories that you experience sexually stick with you forever, and cause harm towards yourself and your relationships in the future, including your relationship with God. God wants to protect us from harm, so He put limits on our sexuality, but these limits are not exclusive to just sexual intercourse. Paul states that "sexual immorality" is what harms us, and the Greek word used here is "porneia" (which I'm guessing you can find out what word we get from that). This word literally means any illicit sexual behavior, such as: adultery, fornication, homosexuality, and so on... Jesus explains that if you even look at a woman (or man) lustfully it is the same as committing adultery, so, obviously, God sets the standard a little higher than just intercourse.

God wants us to flee from sexual immorality. Ultimately, we don't even have the right to sin against our bodies because they're not ours. The Bible explains that our bodies our temples of the Holy Spirit, and that we were bought at a price (6:19-20). It's not even your choice, you're just renting this body, and God has commanded you to stop using it for sexual immorality. You were bought at a price. The images, videos, and/or stories that you read or watch are not in God's plan for sex, and they will cause you harm. When you take it too far with your boyfriend/girlfriend, you're not following God's plan for sex. When you chat online too explicitly with somebody or text nude pictures to someone, you are not following God's plan for sex. All of these things will cause you harm, and lead you further away from God's plan. God wants us to experience sex, but under His terms. However, if you have messed up, let me say that God doesn't hate you, and it's not the end of the world for you. God loves you, and through His help He can make you holy, so that you can live a fulfilling and righteous life under His terms. Sex is awesome and God loves it, but you have to stop forcing intimacy and start living according to God's plan.

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For God's forgiveness when you stray from His plan, and pray for His love and support as you try to get back to His plan.